10 Tips for being a good Toastmaster and Communicator for Life

by "Denver Wedding Photographer R. J. Kern, Kern-Photo" 

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I owe my first toastmaster experience to my Mom... which began 25 years ago at her Toastmaster club in New Bern, North Carolina while I sat under an 8’ table, grabbing bites of my Hardees cinnamon and raisin biscuits in between playing with Transformers and GI Joes. I can still hear the marble drop in the tin can for every “umm” & filler word mentioned in those meeting (sounds a bit old school, now). Today, I presented a speech for my Buffalo Toastmaster’s public speaking Club. As part of the Advanced Communication Series, I presented my “Mastering the Toast” speech project which challenged me to present a two- to three- minute toast in honor of a person. I chose my Mom, since she has been a model Toastmaster in my life.

I share with you the Top Ten things I learned from my Mom that can make us all better communicators for life. My notes to guide my speech: 

10. God gave us two ears and one mouth. We shall use them in that proportion. Many of us forget the importance of listening.

9. You’ll get farther with sugar than vinegar. Especially when it comes with dealing with the IRS on the phone. Steady persistence using patience and a sense of humor usually pays off more than stinging words. 

8. Simple IS better. And that goes for preparing for a family dinner, writing a cover letter, or planning a wedding. Less can be more. 

7. ‘Thank you portions’ can open your eyes. Instead of turning away Brussels’ sprouts, as for a small “thank you” portion. Our taste buds change with age and being opening up to new things, whether it be foods or Toastmaster speaking opportunities can open up amazing new doors. Mom, never thought it would take me 33 years to like Brussels’ sprouts. 

6. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. Which do you think feels better? Mom, I love you. OR. Mom, I LOVE you !!! 

5. “Why do you ask?” A perfect response to someone asking a personal question you choose not to answer, simply respond in a nice way: “Why do you ask?” You might be surprised at their reaction. 

4. Back pedaling on a mountain bike isn’t easy, especially when you got a flat tire miles from nowhere and didn’t want to bring a spare tube/pump because of not wanting to lug the extra 300 grams of weight. You never know how much you can do until you try to undo what you have already done. 

3. Smile. Actions really do speak louder than words. A smile and sparkle in the eyes goes a long way. 

2. Thoughtfulness is never over rated. Homemade jam always tastes than store bought stuff. 

1. Never underestimate the power of a simple compliment. Mom, you’re awesome.  Mom, I send you my best wishes for health, happiness, and your continued source of inspiration for those around you.  And I must say, of all the toasts I’ve given in my entire life, this one, this very Top 10 toast, by far.. is the most special!

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A special thanks to the support of my fellow Buffalo Toastmasters, kind enough to not hand me a ticket for going 15 seconds over the {speaking} limit.

Who Knew?

Buffalo Toastmasters has introduced me to a great deal of "firsts"...including posting a BLOG!!  Who knew so many good things would come my way?  

Many of us don't take opportunities to express our personal appreciation along life's trail.  I have vowed not to be one of them.  So, (strike that filler word)...  Instead of recapping the past two meetings, I'd like to take a minute to thank all the Buffalo TM's for your past support and guidance, and for the future fun and learning I know awaits me.  It happens at every meeting. I doubt every club has such sincere, pleasant and supportive membership. 

Table Topicsmaster still eludes me, but the easy ones, Grammarian, Timer, Ah-Counter, Joke Master and Word Master are no longer a threat, but a challenge to make them greater.  Evaluating is an art that I am working to master, and with such fine mentors (all) I will no doubt succeed.  

My first attempt at General Evaluator was fraught with surprises, as I agreed to the task as a last minute replacement.  And as most will remember, the meeting included our Area Governor!  But, true to the Toastmaster Spirit, I was gently guided and assisted by the membership, arriving at the end with lessons learned and a smile from all, including my own.  My second attempt started out well then deteriorated.  When the doubts about the event snuck back in a few days later, I opened two e-mails only to find support and kudos.  It just doesn't get any better than that.

All this said, I have more hurdles to cross.  Speeches are lined up in front of me (but not written).  Goals escape me (thankfully there is a manual or two).  Adequate preparation has never been a problem for me, but the perfectionist in me needs to take a rest.  As I work the program, I know I will appreciate your continued support and assistance.  You have all made it clear that I am welcome, acknowledged, appreciated and respected.  As I said earlier, WHO KNEW SUCH GOOD THINGS WOULD COME MY WAY?

Linda Knudson
Proud to be a Buffalo Toastmaster